Duality
Posted: 05/05/2011 Filed under: Photography, Quotes, Thoughts, Watching 1 Comment »
How difficult it can be to distinguish good from bad. Fortune from misfortune. The right path from the wrong. So often, to our surprise and consternation, we find these opposites to be entwined. Inseparable.
There’s a parable that surfaces in various forms in various cultures that speaks to this. The version that comes most readily to my mind (because, in our rare free moments, when we’re too tired for anything but TV, we Netflix Northern Exposure, which is quite possibly the most wonderful show ever made) is this one, from the NX episode “Bolt from the Blue,” as related by character Marilyn Whirlwind:
The Warrior
My uncle once told me about a warrior who had a fine stallion. Everybody said how lucky he was to have such a horse.
”Maybe” he said.
One day the stallion ran off. The people said the warrior was unlucky.
”Maybe” he said.
The next day the stallion returned, leading a string of fine ponies. The people said it was very lucky.
”Maybe” the warrior said.
Later, the warrior’s son was thrown from one of the ponies and broke his leg. The people said it was unlucky.
”Maybe” the warrior said.
The next week, the chief lead a war party against another tribe. Many young men were killed. But, because of his broken leg, the warrior’s son was left behind, and so was spared.
* * *
When faced with events that teach us that good and bad are two sides of the same coin, learning to accept their duality but to focus on the good almost always makes for a happier life, I do believe.
For Beginners
Posted: 04/25/2011 Filed under: Academia, Quotes | Tags: Ira Glass 1 Comment »
A friend shared this with me, and I loved it so much, now I am sharing it with you!
First Blush
Posted: 02/28/2011 Filed under: Nature, Photography, Quotes 2 Comments »The flowers of late winter and early spring
occupy places in our hearts
well out of proportion to their size.
- Gertrude S. Wister (1905-1999)

November’s Moon
Posted: 11/21/2010 Filed under: Motherhood, Nature, Photography, Quotes | Tags: autumn, autumn leaves, baby, Beaver Moon, fall, falling leaves, full moon, moon, Nathaniel Hawthorne, November 3 Comments »
Here we are once more: the full moon! In North America, the most common name for November’s moon is the Beaver Moon, in part because, for fur-trappers, November is an excellent time to lay traps for that animal, and in part because beavers are busy building winter dams this month. (For those of you wondering: we’ve not seen our backyard beaver since our last encounter — the tree remains downed, and sadly unused.)
The last few days have reminded us why we call the fall The Fall: from above, a steady downward flutter of leaves, drifting, blanketing the lawn. The locals agree: the autumn colors have been unusually beautiful this year — and autumn itself has been wondrously long. Many bright, warm days. Perfect for walking, and soaking up the sun’s rays.
As Nathaniel Hawthorne wrote: I cannot endure to waste anything as precious as autumn sunshine by staying in the house. So I spend almost all the daylight hours in the open air. Well, in my case, perhaps not all the daylight hours. But at least an hour a day, Matt, the baby, and I are out in the autumn glow!
The weeks are flying by. One month until the first day of winter, the winter solstice — which also happens to be December’s full moon. A fun coincidence! And just over a month until this baby arrives. He or she is growing well — healthy and strong! Big kicks this month, and lots of hiccups. Above: a quick photo snapped late this afternoon (staring into the sun — explains the squint!). The belly is big, and I love it! All is well.
Happy autumn to you all!
A Single Remaining Rose
Posted: 11/02/2010 Filed under: Nature, Photography, Quotes, Reading | Tags: autumn, Faulkner, late-season, rose Leave a comment »
Recently, Matt went on a Faulkner marathon at bedtimes, reading sections aloud when the mood struck. Last weekend, we spotted this late-season rose — undaunted, determined, the last on the bush — and recalled this passage:
There was a rose, a single remaining rose. Through the sad, dead days of late summer it had continued to bloom, and now though persimmons had long swung their miniature suns among the caterpillar-festooned branches, and gum and maple and hickory had flaunted two gold-and-scarlet weeks, and the grass, where grandfathers of grasshoppers squatted sluggishly like sullen octogenarians, had been pencilled twice delicately with frost, and the sunny noons were scented with sassafras, it still bloomed. Overripe now, and a little gallantly blowsy, like a fading burlesque star.
- William Faulkner, from Flags in the Dust (1929)
The Heart of Autumn
Posted: 10/25/2010 Filed under: Nature, Photography, Quotes | Tags: autumn, Charlotte Fiske Bates, fall, fall color, Quotes, season, seasons, the heart of autumn Leave a comment »The heart of autumn must have broken here,
and poured its treasure out upon the leaves.
- Charlotte Fiske Bates (1838 – 1916)

Do More
Posted: 09/30/2010 Filed under: Quotes | Tags: do more, quote, Quotes, William Arthur Ward Leave a comment »Do more than belong: participate.
Do more than care: help.
Do more than believe: practice.
Do more than be fair: be kind.
Do more than forgive: forget.
Do more than dream: work.
- William Arthur Ward (1921–1994)
Of a Family’s Life on the Land
Posted: 08/14/2010 Filed under: Motherhood, Nature, Prose, Quotes | Tags: agriculture, childrearing, children, Enchanted Acre, farming, good life, Gove Hambidge, husband and wife, marriage Leave a comment »If we had ample means and could choose any kind of life we wished, we would choose what we have chosen. And when I say we, I mean we. There are many differences between a man’s viewpoint and a woman’s, even though they may live side by side in the same house year in and year out. But there must be a profound unshaken unity underneath the difference if they are to make a success of such a life as we have lived, because the things that must be passed by are things that one or the other might consider indispensable. As for children, I cannot help but think that they gain far more than they lose, in happiness and experience. By and large, it is the best life for children. And later, they must make their own choice.
- Gove Hambidge, from Enchanted Acre: Adventures in Backyard Farming (1935)
Of Eggplant and Cookbookery
Posted: 08/02/2010 Filed under: Favorites, Food + Drink, Photography, Quotes, Reading | Tags: advice, Alone in the Kitchen With an Eggplant, cookbook, cookbooks, cooking, eggplant, fans, friend, Happy All the Time, Home Cooking, kitchen, Laurie Colwin, More Home Cooking, readers 5 Comments »
Laurie Colwin is one of my all-time favorite authors. She is a food writer and novelist beloved by almost all who find themselves with her books in their hands. Among her fans, a common sentiment is that reading her work is like spending time cozied around the kitchen table, sharing a pot of coffee and a plate of gingerbread with a warm, insightful, and funny true friend.
I first discovered Colwin through her novel Happy All The Time (a book rich in keen domestic and social detail — I’ve read it once a year for years now, I love it so much!). Other folks find her via her two collections of wonderful food essays: Home Cooking and More Home Cooking (the latter published posthumously, after her early death in the 1990s). Even in the 1980s, Colwin was a strong advocate of local, organic foods and heirloom farmer’s market finds (like our eggplant, above). She was ahead of her time!
One of the most well-known pieces in Home Cooking is “Alone in the Kitchen With an Eggplant,” an account of Colwin’s culinary pursuits in her first Greenwich Village apartment, which was 7 x 20 feet, with only a small counter, mini refrigerator, and two-burner hot plate for a kitchen. It had no kitchen sink — all dishes were done in the bathtub. In this apartment, eggplant became Colwin’s go-to ingredient for whipping up A Dinner for One:
When I was alone, I lived on eggplant, the stove top cook’s strongest ally. I fried it and stewed it, and ate it crisp and sludgy, hot and cold. It was cheap and filling and was delicious in all manner of strange combinations. If any was left over, I ate it cold the next day on bread.
Dinner alone is one of life’s pleasures. Certainly cooking for oneself reveals man at his weirdest. People lie when you ask them what they eat when they are alone. A salad, they tell you. But when you persist, they confess to peanut butter and bacon sandwiches deep fried and eaten with hot sauce, or spaghetti with butter and grape jam.
I think of this essay fondly every time I pick up an eggplant. I imagine that, among her readers, this is not uncommon!
Every food subject Colwin chose — from flank steak to potato pancakes to homemade yogurt to chocolate cake — she wrote of with heart and wit and practicality. There is, I think, no better description of the feelings Colwin’s cookbooks evoke in her readers than these words of her own, excerpted from More Home Cooking:
Cookbooks hit you where you live. You want comfort; you want security; you want food; you want to not be hungry, and not only do you want those basic things fixed, you want it done in a really nice, gentle way that makes you feel loved. That’s a big desire, and cookbooks say to the person who’s reading them, “If you will read me, you will be able to do this for yourself and for others. You will make everybody feel better.”
All these things, her cookbooks do. So, go ahead. Find yourself a copy, and welcome Colwin into your cooking life. With her excellent company, you will never feel alone in the kitchen (with or without eggplant). Guaranteed.

